Loving What Is: Four Questions That Can Change Your Life

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I found it disenchanting and troublesome how fundamentalisticly Byron believes in the power of these 4 questions as the sure and only way to salvation, if not now, then later on. As Katie explains, everything in our lives can be defined as one of three kinds of business: mine, yours and God's. There were some disturbing "blame the victim" implications toward the end of the book when Byron Katie applied The Work to situations involving abuse, incest, rape, etc. By mastering the simple steps that make up The Work, you too can live a happier, more fulfilled life. Liked how the author points out that most of our suffering is caused by our perception of things and not the "thing" itself.

And this is why we can have compassion on judgments - the judgments of others and our own judgments. In "The Work", Byron Katie takes us through the process of asking four fundamental questions to the difficult, aggravating, frustrating and painful situations in our lives, be it a relationship, a workplace or office situation, a personal dilemma, or an internal conflict. Loving What Is by bestselling author Byron Katie is a simple, straightforward antidote to the suffering we unnecessarily create for ourselves and has inspired and help millions of people transform their pain into freedom. You don't talk to you because you're mentally over there running his business and then you're feeling all the loneliness of that.This made it an odd book to read for me because usually when I resonate with the basic principles and premises an author is describing I usually also resonate with the way they suggest to live them out etc.

But I have to admit that the four questions were insightful and actually helped me to see through a lot of issues I have been dealing with lately. Byron Katie, in A Mind at Home with Itself, beautifully and freshly expresses the essence of the Buddha-Dharma. What Katie's ideology here seems to reflect is a cutting off of the conversation because it's vulnerable and leaves us open to suffering. Ultimately, I think Katie's concepts are too much for most people to digest without potentially having bad side effects.

At once startlingly fresh and powerfully enlightening, A Mind at Home with Itself offers us a transformative new perspective on life and death.

In this groundbreaking book, Katie helps you question everything you have been taught to do to gain love, approval, and appreciation and shows you how this questioning brings real love and puts you in charge of your own happiness. I mean, there are tons of paths that are A-OK by me, but I don't believe that all paths are of equal worth.You can believe almost totally that you couldn't have escaped the situation, but you still have that lingering shard of doubt -- and that could be a way in to learn to recover from it, starting with forgiving your own perceived complicity. The Work" is a new level of introspection that I am now using with great results to work through my own personal problems and with my fabulous clients to help them work through some of their challenges.

The book offers a simple yet powerful technique to help us find inner peace and freedom from mental anguish. I discovered that when I believed my thoughts I suffered, but when I didn’t believe them I didn’t suffer, and that this is true for every human being. When a person becomes familiar with the four questions and is capable of placing negative thoughts under the scrutiny of The Work, the questions create a framework that can transform difficult situations in virtually any area.

Questioning your own judgements and investigating your own feelings and looking at them from other perspectives can lead to many new insights and open your eyes to liberating perepctives and thoughts you've never even considered. For those, that do have the above abilities, and consider themselves extremely in touch with themselves. Contrary to popular belief, trying to let go of a painful thought never works; instead, once we have done The Work, the thought lets go of us. Katie's four questions sound simple, but working through them honestly in the interest of dismantling the lies we believe can be hard work.